Mind Your Own Business
"Yes to both [I've asked someone out; and been asked out]—successfully—but bartenders don't kiss and tell." — Davis Anderson (Maslow 6 Wine Bar)
"Ha! In the 13 or so years behind a bar, I struggle to remember the last time I went out with someone I didn't meet while working. With vastly varying degrees of success. I did kiss a girl over the bar once whose hair went up in flames as soon as our lips touched, but we never went out." —Bob Achilles (The Industry)
"As someone who works in the industry, I would never ask out a server or bartender while they are working—the last thing I want is an awkward situation and to make someone feel uncomfortable while they are working. There are different opinions on the subject, but I find the general consensus to be that it is disrespectful and rude. That is not to say that I wouldn't flirt with someone, and I have been asked out by customers in the past. I've accepted a few times... none evolved into any sort of long term relationship, but I would still consider those dates to be successful." —Adam Robinson (Rum Club)
I'm Flattered, But...
Blame My Fiancé
"I like to think that my fiancé and I are proof that people can meet working in this crazy industry and actually mate for life... Does that count? (Almost 6 years later we're still together and still love what we do for a living.) That being said, I have been unsuccessfully asked out by many clients, but you can technically blame my husband-to-be for that one; who knows if one of them would have been successful!" —Victoria Levin (The Tangled Vine)
"It's not something I do that often but yes, occasionally there is someone who comes along and despite your supposed professionalism, you'd be kicking yourself if they left without you asking them out. Sometimes they say yes and sometimes they say no but to go into specifics wouldn't be fair.
Ideally you can do it in a manner whereby if or when they come in again, it's not awkward. And that requires tact…"
—John Cummins (The Dawson Lounge)
Collections of Numbers
"I have never asked a patron out. However, I used to get phone numbers quite often. Usually, when I got home at the end of my shift, i'd just put the cards or bits of paper with the numbers on them on my dresser and forget about them. Eventually, I started dating someone seriously and my stockpile of numbers became fodder for constant teasing." — Elizabeth Powell (ArtBar)